Keep your newborn birth story close. Don't rush to pass her to someone else. She's tender and precious, and she's growing and changing as quickly as a newborn baby. Spend time getting to know each other.
When you are ready, look for the right people share in your baby story's care: these might be people close to you, or a stranger who just feels right: someone who will cradle your story lovingly as she gurgles and as she cries, and who won't grab, assume, judge or give unwanted advice. It will usually be someone with one or more birth stories of their own, who perhaps have similar temperaments to yours. Be discerning, and don't be afraid to tell someone that they can't hold your birth story right now.
You know your baby birth story best. If she seems unhealthy, lethargic, in pain, or inexplicably unsettled; if she's stopped developing; if she keeps crying out no matter what you do or who you give her to to hold; or, if you feel consistently disconnected, anxious or overwhelmed around her, this does not mean you are doing something wrong. It just means that you probably need help from a professional.
Young people and pregnant parents gestating their own birth story can benefit from interacting with a range of birth stories; these experiences can help prepare and inform them. But being expected without warning to take care of a screaming, refluxing newborn story is likely to be overwhelming and stressful. How will they know what to do? On the other hand, meeting only blissful, smiling stories who never so much as poo may lead them, down the track, to wonder what they did wrong when their own unique story behaves differently.
It can take a village to raise a birth story. But how do we raise the right kind of village? My feelings are thoughtfully, one step at a time. Watch out for an upcoming blog post about mindful birth story sharing.